The walk

Sifting through old photo albums of people doing their nikah now and for some odd reason, I'm feeling nostalgic... wondering how it felt like for them , how their family members felt at the time and how relieved the couple must have been after weeks, months or even years of intense wedding preparations. I'm not even that stage yet and yet, I can still sense the feeling of happiness, joy and relief as I go towards the end of the album. I sincerely can't wait until it's my turn. :)

Anyways, salam ladies~

Lately I've been surrounded by a lot of baby bumps and baby talk, and it's making me think a lot about when I want to have them, how many and how soon. It may seem a bit too early to think about it but if any of you have realised, the countdown ticker on the right hand side of the page only indicates a solemnisation countdown. What happened to the sanding, you say? Well, that will be held at the end of the year/early next year. :)

Why the huge gap? Why not selajurkan saja tarus? Ohhhh I've got a whole list of reasons for this - one of which is financial planning and then there's waiting for my sister to be back in Brunei before we embark on a socially-official function... amongst a few others. The thing about doing something like this is: it's not widely culturally accepted yet, at least not within my parents and my grandparents' generation. They are so used to a full launch wedding ceremony, where the nikah precedes the malam berbedak and that precedes the bersanding ceremony so imagine their disbelief when this little, bride-to-be initially requested for a nikah only. Oh the heated discussions! Hehe.

Alhamdulillah, with Allah's grace and blessings, after all the discussions and initial hesitations, the parents and the grandmother eventually accepted the idea with a little bit of compromising of course - that we do the other events too but at a later date. And that, is how we got to be, ladies. :)

Babies!!

Salam~!

Yes, babies!! :D

I've been reading up wedding blog after wedding blog since the entire morning and this is probably the first time I've gotten teary-eyed from reading the entries - one of the former bride-to-bes is now a mother-in-the-making!! Yes, she's pregnant!! And she's only been married for two months! Heeeeeee, she's so lucky to be blessed and granted an offspring so soon, I'm so happy for her. :') Lately, I've been very hormonal (it's almost the T.O.T.M., you see) so anything even as remotely happy like this gets me all teary-eyed. But really, I'm soo happy for her!! Rezekinya awal dtg, Alhamdulillah. :) Plus babies are so cute anyway! Hehe.

Although it's a bit too early to be discussing about babies (nikah pun balum! lol), the other half and I have actually talked about this before. And I think it's even more important that we do, considering the fact that we're doing nikah first and then doing our sanding 5-6 months later. A good friend of mine warned me that by doing that, there's a chance that I'll get ''bunting pelamin'' - which apparently translates to having a baby bump on your bersanding (reception) day - and hence, people might 'talk'. Especially if the nikah is not known to others but only to your family members. So what is initially a 'halal' thing might actually be misconstrued as a negative 'accident' tah plang - 'eh, mcm beparut. be-isi kah ia?? baru jua ia kawin ni', you know that kind of thing. Padahal the marital relationship HAS been halal five months back.

The thought has actually given me quite a dilemma to be honest. Thankfully, the other half is very understanding and considerate of the whole situation. :) He's saying to just go with the flow and if Allah bestows upon us a baby/bump before our bersanding, then we'll take in it our stride. He's heard of stories where other couples have waited years and years to conceive and yet here we are, fussing over what we'll do if we get pregnant before our bersanding. I have to admit, he's right, it does sound kinda selfish of us. :S Plus we can only plan so much but in the end, Allah knows what's absolute best for us anyway. And our relationship would already be halal by then and that's all that matters kn?

Plus my other half would make a good father anyway :)

Till next post!